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A little education or Narcissism 101 – Introjection and Projection – Powerful tools the Narcissist uses in their cycle of abuse to make you feel SHAME and BLAME.

After Narcissistic Abuse

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist!

The casualties of Narcissistic abuse most often find themselves confused and isolated at the end of their relationship, perhaps completely unaware that they were ABUSED or there are other people/victims that have suffered the EXACT same fate. It can be healing and comforting to know that you are not alone at such times and that there is a reason and explanation for what has happened and YOU ARE NOT THE REASON for any of this. You were abused by a malignant Narcissist and that NARCISSIST even has it down to a technique they employ to abuse targets/victims.

Introjection and projection are powerful tools the Narcissist uses against unsuspecting victims. I did not invent these names, but I feel understanding them is IMPORTANT to understanding this abuse and recovering from it as well, so just…

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We are all interchangeable objects in the Narcissist’s world and we all have an expiration date!

After Narcissistic Abuse

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @http://www.amazon.com

Let’s put this all together in simple terms to understand the truth behind a Narcissist’s agenda. YES they seem to be very lovable, highly charming, possessing empathy and even intelligent. That is the façade that they create and there is no reality to it. The only significance to it is that it allows the Narcissist to con people into their world to extort them! This becomes the very illusion and trap that the target/victims get caught up in that becomes the future source of so much misery for targets/victims. We BELIEVE in the Narcissist’s manufactured love/charm or we fall in love with them and become vulnerable because of the emotional attachment. It is a horrendous disappointment, and disillusionment when you realize that you fell in love with a perfect illusion of love that…

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You are CRAZY, the source of ALL of the problems, YOU are forgetful, YOU lie, YOU drive me insane, YOU stress me out, YOU are obsessed and jealous, AND all of your friends and family AGREE – ‘Gaslighting’ the Narcissist’s attempt to drive you to the point of insanity – BUT they love you??

After Narcissistic Abuse

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @Amazon.com

A real perspective and some education on that term ‘Gaslighting’ and how it endangers and DAMAGES a target/victim’s reality over a long period of time. This is the very tool that a Narcissist uses to drive their target/victim straight to the point of dependence, subservience, and insanity AND it all started out with them loving you so they can disable you and take what they can or use YOU.

‘Gaslighting’ is purely the Narcissist’s attempt to literally make you believe that you are going insane! This term comes from the old black/white movie ‘Gaslight’ where a husband sets out to convince his very normal wife that she is insane because he is seeking out a fortune that is hidden in the attic. He secretly removes different things from their home and tells her…

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Sticks and Stones may Break your Bones, but a Narcissist’s words will Psychologically ABUSE you!

After Narcissistic Abuse

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @http://www.amazon.com

You have been abused. You are a target/victim of abuse. You were systematically targeted, betrayed, and deceived by a disordered human being with a false mask of reality. A person manipulated you into liking them, getting to know them, trusting them and loving them. It was as real to you as it would have been to ANY OTHER human being that started out on whatever type of relationship journey it was. The experience of meeting somebody special and going through the process of dating (or even friendship) and creating this relationship WAS NO DIFFERENT than what any other person would experience. BUT IT WAS DIFFERENT because you were being set up for extortion and abuse AND this relationship wasn’t REAL in the least bit, not even in the smallest way. It was all…

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Deprograming our minds from the many questions and mixed messages from this abuse with KNOWLEDGE and EDUCATION so that the abuse isn’t like an avalanche of mixed or confounded thoughts that leave a target/victim feeling like there is no place to start as far as recovering, because it sure can feel that way.

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @   Recognizing and understanding emotional/psychological abuse is definitely where we m…

Source: Deprograming our minds from the many questions and mixed messages from this abuse with KNOWLEDGE and EDUCATION so that the abuse isn’t like an avalanche of mixed or confounded thoughts that leave a target/victim feeling like there is no place to start as far as recovering, because it sure can feel that way.

How Codependents Leave Abusive Narcissistic Relationships

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You may be feeling crazy because you love a narcissist and are afraid to leave the abusive relationship.  It will be easier to help yourself leave the more you know about codependency and narcissistic personality disorder.   Abusive narcissists require someone who is willing to cater to their needs and to give up their own desires.  Narcissists are self-destructive people with concealed low self-esteem and insatiable needs for attention and nothing to give. They parasitically attach to a giving, supportive person who avoids center stage and thrives on taking care of others.

Expecting something from an abusive narcissist who has nothing to give can make a codependent feel crazy.  Trying to pretend that the narcissist is someone he or she is not can drive you wild.  So what is codependency?  Codependents are people who have spent years negotiating with reality concerning particular people from their past and present.  Codependents spend years trying to get…

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